Marriage

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re|engage

At Oakwood we participate in the re|engage marriage enrichment program. Marriages in any condition can benefit, whether you are struggling to get along, your marriage is broken, or you simply want to grow closer together as a couple. re|engage examines God’s design for marriage and how couples can grow together in true Biblical oneness.

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re|engage Frequently Asked Questions 

When and where does re|engage meet?

 

We meet on Sunday nights from 6:15-8:00pm. We begin the night in the Pavilion. It will be cancelled on any night when Oakwood’s Sunday night service is also cancelled.

Is there limited space?

 

No.

How do I sign-up?

 

You can just show up. Although if you have children pre-K through 5th grade please email to give us a heads up to ensure we have enough children’s ministry workers.

What does a typical night at re|engage “look like”?
 
6:15-6:45pm – Large Group Time (Worship & Marriage Testimonies/Teaching)

6:45-8:00pm – Small Group/Open Group/Newcomer Time Newcomers: The first time you attend re|engage you will have an introduction time into re|engage. The re|engage leader will ask all newcomers to stay behind after the Large Group time. You will watch an introduction video and be explained how re|engage works and be given a chance to ask questions. This will be shorter than the other group times.

Open Group: The second week you attend re|engage you will go into an open group with up to 20 other people. During this time you will work on your marriage by discussing the teaching time or testimony from Large Group. You will remain in Open Group until you are ready or a Small Group is available to start. We do not add people to pre-existing closed groups. Once you join a Small Group you will no longer attend Open Group.

Small Group: Eventually you will be place in a closed small group with 4-5 other couples plus a facilitator couple, and you’ll work through the 16 chapters of the re|engage workbook together.
What if my spouse can’t/won’t attend on Sunday Nights?

 

The Large Group teaching time and the Open Group are great places for everyone. The Small Groups require both spouses to be most effective. If your spouse can’t/won’t attend right now, then you have a few options. Come to the Large Group Time and be encouraged by the worship and the stories of hope that are shared. Come to Open Group. This is a less intensive time that you can still benefit from without your spouse. Contact Robert Parrish ( ) and discuss the possibility of getting you connected with a mentor that will walk with you doing this time until your spouse is ready to commit to working on your marriage.

Will I be asked a lot of personal questions at re|engage?

 

There is no personal sharing required during the large group meeting. Though we encourage you to remain active in group discussion, any personal sharing during the Open Group and Small Group meetings is voluntary.

How do I know that what I share at re|engage will be kept confidential? Will it be a safe place to share?

 

We believe that scripture calls us to refrain from gossip and we ask all participants and facilitators to adhere to the guidelines that what is discussed in the group stays in the group. re|engage facilitators are encouraged to operate under the direction of God’s Word in handling the information shared in the group. In order to provide a safe environment, the facilitators have committed to not share information about others outside the group except in the event of the threat of physical, emotional or spiritual injury, then to be dealt with under the guidance of the re|engage staff.

Can I be honest with people about what is going on in our marriage?

 

Our prayer is that you will feel safe to share within your Small Group. We find that the more authentic and transparent couples can be with others, the more they find hope and healing within their marriage.

Is re|engage marriage counseling?

 

re|engage is not marriage counseling & the leaders are facilitators, not counselors. They are also growing in their own marriages. Everyone in the group is on the journey to oneness in marriage. We believe that openness & honesty in a small group setting, using Biblically-based curriculum, is where God works to grow & resurrect marriages.

Do you provide child care?

 

Yes, we do provide childcare for infants through 5th grade. They will be a part of the Sunday Children’s Ministry. Children can be dropped as early as 6:00 for the 6:15 Large Group Time. They need to be picked up by 8:00.

Can I just come and visit, or do I have to commit to something?

 

There is no commitment to simply come to Large Group or Open Group. However once you decide to join a small group we ask you to commit to completing the 16 week study with your group.

How much time each week outside of the meeting is required to be part of re|engage?

 

Completion of the curriculum will take approximately 15-20 minutes each week. The time required will vary, but it is designed to be short and sweet.

What commitment do I have to make?

 

Once you join a closed group, working through the re|engage curriculum will require about a 4 month commitment. This is the time in which the group is working through the 16 chapters of the re|engage workbook together. We also ask you to commit to attending at least 90% of the meetings. Infrequent attendance does not benefit you and it again inhibits the trust and vulnerability that group has established with the consistent attenders in the group.

How much does it cost?

 

The only cost is the re|engage workbook for $10. Each spouse needs a book, so the total cost is $20.

I don’t know if I’ll have a marriage by the end of the month. Is re|engage a good place for us?

 

Absolutely! There are many couples who have attended, or are attending, who are separated or divorced. While the outcome is based on the work each individual is willing to do to save their marriage, the platform provides a safe place to focus on what a healthy marriage should look like, and it provides some tools to help grow toward this goal.

We don’t like spending time with each other anymore. Will we have to interact together?

 

While you will be in a small group together, each of you will be sharing about what you learn personally each week. However, there are some exercises that will require you to interact with each other throughout the process.

I have no hope anymore. Is this a place where we can find hope?

 

Our prayer is that you will find hope that can allow God to do a mighty work within your marriage.

My marriage is doing well. Can we benefit by attending re|engage?

 

Whether your marriage needs to be reignited, or is in need of a complete resurrection, re|engage is a safe place for couples to connect and grow in oneness.

We have only been married for 6 months. Can we still come?

 

Absolutely! In fact, participating in re|engage at this stage in your marriage is an incredible idea! The program will provide a strong foundation for your marriage.

We are thinking about getting married (or are engaged). Is this ministry for us?

 

re|engage is designed for husbands and wives.  We would suggest doing pre-marital counseling at the Oakwood Counseling Center. You can set up an appointment at 830-627-7006. You can also participate in one of upcoming Merge pre-marital courses. Contact Pastor Robert for details .

 

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